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 I was once asked, "How can I destroy the narcissist in my life?"

My answer?  There is no need and doing so would only make you like the person you want to destroy.  

We here it everyone these days: manipulator! It’s as if these people who have such ease with manipulating others have newly come into existence.

That’s not the case.  Manipulation is nothing new and neither are those who use it.  It has always existed although it does seem to be more and more prevalent in today’s society. 

How can you avoid falling into the manipulator’s traps?

You only just met him and he’s charming, attentive, thoughtful.  He asks you questions, listens with a patience you’ve never known.  You have so much in common.  You love long walks along the beach?  He does too!   You dream of working for yourself?  He just quit his (very good) job to do the same.  You need to find a new apartment?  He’ll help you do it or knows someone who will.  Your first date goes so well that you definitely want to see him again.

When is a victim considered as acquired by a manipulator?

There isn’t one single moment or one single sign.  Each manipulator has his own way of operating and each relationship is different.  For some, it’s when he feels the other has fallen in love with him.  Sometimes it’s when the couple moves in together, gets engaged, gets married, has a child together, opens a company together (because not all abusive relationships involve romantic relationships).  Any action or deed that creates a tie that is permanent or not easily undone can be the moment when everything in the relationship changes.

The last phase in a relationship with a manipulator is rejection.  We’ve already seen how once the manipulator has spent the necessary time seducing in order to acquire you, he will then go into devaluation phase, his goal being to destroy you morally, psychologically, and even physically. 

Once these phases are completed, rejection is next on the list.

What happens once the victim is acquired ?

Often it’s the next step, devaluation, that sets in.  Whereas before he put you on a pedestal, bit by bit, he chips away at that to not only bring you back down to earth, but even lower.

Despite what one may think, the manipulator is in fact someone who is very dependent on others.  If he hasn’t made the decision to leave you, he will not want you to leave him.  He still needs you.  On top of it, if you were to leave him, he’s the one who is left, abandoned and that’s not very good for his image!

We are hearing more and more about essential oils.  But they are hardly new to the world of well-being.  In fact, they were widely used in ancient Egypt!

Many of us know that lavender essential oil has a calming effect on the nervous system.  And many may also be aware that peppermint is very helpful with headaches and even migrains. 

But did you know that lavender essential oil also helps improve and unblock stuck communication as well as deep seated feelings of abandonment? 

In Traditional Chinese Medicine, it is believed that different emotions are stored in different organs of the body, based on their vibrational frequency.  For example, anger is often stored in the liver while fear is stored in the kidneys. Thus, an overabundance of anger may weaken the liver and inversely a weakened liver may bring about feelings of anger. 

Science has also recently proven that emotional patterns can be passed on from generation to generation.  Studies done on survivors of the Holocaust as well as their descendants have shown that the trauma suffered by those in the concentration camps is passed down through DNA.  Emotions are being stored on a cellular level!

This past spring, I found myself attracted to anything having to do with hibiscus.  You could even say that maybe I had a small obsession with it.  Of course, I bought myself a hibiscus plant for the house.  And as soon as a product contained hibiscus, I was drawn to it:  tea, face wash, perfumes…

Waratah is a flower not found in Europe but whose essence is becoming increasingly important given the current events in the world today. It is among the most powerful of the Australian Bush Flower Essences.

Vetiver is a herbaceous plant found in India and Sri Lanka.  It has long roots that anchor it deeply in the ground.  

Vetiver essential oil is obtained through the steam distillation of these roots.

It is sought after in the world of parfumery for its base notes and we find it in soaps, home perfumes, and body perfumes among other things.

Geranium essential oil is one of my favourites.

Not only does it have a soft and floral scent, but it brings with it so many benefits to various parts of our overall health.  

It's back to school time and it’s always helpful to have a few tips on hand for the inevitable bumps along the way.  Here are a few essential oils to help you get the school year off on the right foot:

Harebell is a flowering plant that comes from the “bellflower” family. It originates from continental Europe and is sometimes referred to as the Bluebell. It can be recognized by its blue or purple bell-shaped petals.

Harebell flower essence can help you improve your abilities to be well and prosper. It allows you to align your thoughts, words, and actions and will ultimately help you achieve your goals.  The Harebell flower essence is used to rid you of your negative feelings and insecurities.

The Baby Blue Eyes is a small flower that originates from the state of California and southern Oregon and is known for its affinity for water. The Baby Blue Eyes belongs to the “waterleaf” family and can be recognized thanks to its striking blue petals.

The Menzies Banksia flower essence comes from firewood banksia, a flowering plant originating from Western Australia and the Perth region that belongs to the “banksia” family. It can be recognized by its dull, green leaves and is often two-colored (red/pink and yellow).